By nature I’m inclined to try to please others. Sometimes at the expense of my own happiness. That’s not good. So I’m trying to get better at saying “no”.
Now, whenever faced with a “yes or no” decision that will involve my time, instead saying “yes” right away to please the other person I’ll take time to weigh the pro’s and cons. I’ll ask myself to honestly answer the question, “Is this really something I want to do?” If it’s not, I’ve started to say “no”.
Sure, it may be disappointing to the other person at first but it’s unfair of me to say “yes” and go at something halfheartedly.
One positive that I’ve seen by saying “no” a little bit more often is that it opens the door for someone else to say “yes”. I can think of a few instances of where another person stepped up, was a great fit, and did a much better job than I would have.
The other benefit to saying “no” instead of instantly saying “yes” is that it has freed me up to spend more time with my family. It’s also made me happier in general.
Do you find it difficult to say “no”? Ever said “yes” and regretted it?