I’m not sure at what age it happens. The age where you gain that “filter”. The one that keeps you from saying something you probably shouldn’t.
Young kids don’t have it. They speak what’s on their mind regardless of the consequences. As adults we tend to do a little better job biting our tongues.
I recently ran across an interesting take on this “filter”. It’s a Sulfi saying:
Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates. At the first gate, ask yourself ‘Is is true.’ At the second gate ask, ‘Is it necessary.’ At the third gate ask, ‘Is it kind.’
Seems like a pretty good 3 step check list. One I’m trying to practice in everyday life.
Got any funny stories about a child without a “filter” speaking the truth? Leave a comment. I’d love to hear them.
I’ve noticed a little something about how one of my kids eats supper. She’ll eat all her vegetables first and then moves on to the rest of the meal.
She doesn’t do this because she loves veggies. She tolerates them… but always finishes them. I can only assume she does this because they aren’t her favorite part of the meal and she just wants to get them over and done with.
I’ve taken this practice of getting something done and over with to work with me. There’s a certain task I have to do every Friday. It’s not difficult but it is tedious, time consuming, and my least favorite part of the week.
Until recently I’d save it for the last thing of the day. By the time I’d get to it I’d be tired and frustrated and dreaded doing it.
The past few Fridays I’ve switched it up. I’ve started tackling that job first thing in the morning. It’s made the job not as frustrating. I think I’m actually getting it done quicker too.
The other thing I’ve noticed is that the rest of my Friday seems to feel a little different. I’m more relaxed knowing that my least favorite part of the day is over with.
Whether it’s veggies or a frustrating work chore… do you tackle the worst first? Or do you put it off until the last minute?
A recent tweet by Mr. Scott Eddy touched on happiness (and got me thinking). He tweeted the following.
People who are happy:
1. Ask for nothing
2. Laugh at themselves
3. Listen with interest
4. Rarely complain
5. Inspire others
What a great list! I think he’s on to something. In my own life I know I’m happiest if all 5 are met.
A couple items on the list I feel fairly confident that I’m meeting. A few I could stand to work on.
What about you? Do you agree with the list? What would you add to it?